Want a fulfilled life? Focus on Self Mastery

In this post featuring Ava Adames, you will have the opportunity to explore the concept of self-mastery and why it is fundamental to living a fulfilled life.

“Self-mastery is the primary ingredient for you to show up for anything and all things genuinely.  Self-mastery is a very real thing and it’s linked to self-love and self-leadership. By cutting out all the noise that fragments one’s self, they can really show up and not care. 
With self-mastery, you make the choice. You define your life and you deal with the consequences because of that. That’s the awareness, the inspiration, and the greatest mystery of life — stop searching for it. You have the choice to connect into what makes you feel joyous, so you can have that sense of freedom — the precursor for liberation.” 

– Ava Adames – Founder of Violets in Bloom & Candles, Sticks & Stones

With self mastery, you make the choice.”

Self-mastery is the ability to understand, control, and improve oneself, and it lies at the core of personal development and success. Self-mastery is not a destination; rather, it’s a lifelong journey of growth and self-improvement.

Self Mastery and Personal Growth

At its core, self-mastery is about personal growth. It involves gaining a deep understanding of your strengths, weaknesses, values, and beliefs. By knowing yourself better, you can make conscious decisions that align with your goals and aspirations. Without self-mastery, it’s easy to fall into the trap of reacting to external circumstances, rather than proactively shaping your life.

Emotional Intelligence and Self Mastery

By mastering your emotions, you can navigate through life’s challenges with grace and resilience. This skill is invaluable in personal relationships, career success, and overall well-being. People with high emotional intelligence are better equipped to handle stress, build meaningful relationships, and lead with empathy.

Setting and Achieving Goals

Want to achieve your goals? Self-mastery can help you get there as it requires discipline, determination, and the ability to delay gratification. When you master yourself, you can stay focused on your long-term objectives, even when faced with short-term temptations or setbacks. Whether you’re pursuing a career, fitness goals, or personal dreams, self-mastery is the driving force that keeps you on track.

Improved Decision Making

When you’re in control of your thoughts and emotions, you can make decisions based on reason and clarity rather than impulsiveness. You are less likely to be swayed by external pressures, peer influence, or fear. As a result, your choices are more likely to align with your values and long-term vision.

Stress Management

Life is filled with stressors, but self-mastery equips you with the tools to manage them effectively. By understanding your triggers and responses, you can develop healthy coping mechanisms. This not only reduces stress but also prevents it from negatively impacting your physical and mental health. Self-mastery fosters resilience, helping you bounce back from adversity stronger than before.

Building Self-Confidence

Naturally, when you have control over your actions and reactions, you exude confidence. You trust yourself to handle challenges and believe in your ability to achieve your goals. This self-assurance is not only attractive to others but also instrumental in your own self-belief.

Authentic Leadership

Effective leadership starts with self-leadership. Leaders who have mastered themselves are better equipped to inspire and lead others. They lead by example, displaying the qualities of resilience, emotional intelligence, and decisiveness. Authentic leadership rooted in self-mastery fosters trust and loyalty within teams and organizations.


In a world characterized by constant change and uncertainty, self-mastery is an invaluable asset. It’s a journey of self-discovery, growth, and empowerment that allows you to live a more intentional and fulfilling life. By mastering your thoughts, emotions, and actions, you can take control of your present and future to live a life you love, gain a sense of freedom, and as Ava mentions, closer to liberation.

Ava Adames focuses on creative innovation and collaborations within her various communities which keep her thriving while working with others. She is always eager to take on new challenges and make a positive impact on various industries. As a woman, life partner, and energetic wellness and spirituality coach, she likes to celebrate life as much as possible and to live each moment as it comes. She is the Founder of My Violets in Bloom and Candles, Sticks & Stones. Her advice to others is, “Trust yourself always in all ways.”

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Hi, I’m Jessi

I created Habituelle Life and Leadership Coaching so that ambitious women can see that finding fulfillment in their personal and professional lives is possible. Redefining success in my own life has allowed me to help others do the same.

I’m here to support you in this journey of evolving identities, inner criticisms, and competing societal messages. We aren’t meant to do this life alone.